 My husband does quite a bit of drugs recreationally every few weeks or so. I hate when he does them because of what he becomes. No matter what I do or say I can't get him to stop. I don't want him driving and I don't want to be around him after he does them. He doesn't do them at home (of course) and since I can tell when he gets home, I always ask him if he is on drugs. His answer is always "no". The next thing that happens is we get in a big fight about it and then I tell him to sleep in the other room.
After going through this for almost ten years, I think I have finally given up on him not doing drugs. I have decided not to get a divorce over it, but I am still really angry that he lies to me when I ask him. We end up going through the same process every time. I just don't know what to do.
 Quit asking him. It's one thing to get angry because he still does it
(which you say you have now accepted), it's another to get angry about him
lying. If you quit setting him up to lie, you will stop being angry about
him lying. When he comes home in that altered state, just send him to the
"other room" because you don't want to be around him. Avoid the
confrontation. You keep walking in the same hole every time. Next time
just avoid it and walk around it. It will not resolve the ultimate issue of
his drug use but it will the button that gets pushed when he lies to you.
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